A Grandparent’s Promise to Self

I choose to earn trust, not expect it.

I choose presence over control.

I will meet curiosity with patience,

and difference with acceptance.

I will speak carefully, listen generously,

and leave room for others to lead.

I will not trade love for compliance,

or generosity for leverage.

I will not burden a child with my fears,

or ask them to manage my emotions.

I will stay calm when moments feel urgent,

and think in years, not days.

I will respect parents as parents,

and children as whole people.

I will make my presence feel safe,

my love feel free,

and time together feel light.

I understand that affection is not owed.

It is offered.

And if I am chosen — even quietly —

I will know I have shown up well.

-Anonymous (2025)